on being committed in relationship

I know this is going to be an interesting talk, mainly for it is started by a single woman who extremely tend to be pushed for marrying young.  I am turning 27 this year, hello! I should post this some months ago right during my birthday, however at the time I was just lazy to post anything. After all, I had no special celebration despite some friends who kindly surprised me with the cakes and gifts. Unfortunately at my age, when random people learned that I have not been married yet, the first thing they will tell me is that I should start searching or I am going to get older and no guy will be interested in me …. Well, I am writing this post eventually not for bragging or simply telling anyone that I am okay even tho I am unmarried since I have full time job and prospective career. No. By this writing, I am just curious about the fact found in reality about marriage. Am I already old enough to be married? If I could meet such man who can be partnered with me and together could support each other on being better human beings, why not? I am open to such possibility!

on with whom

I actually met some men during my school break. Let me calculate first, I think they are all about five in total. Having introduced to five prospective single men in two months, okay, I think the numbers are not bad. Oh, and of all the five, exclude the men I’ve met fom dating apps. I realized from anyone point of views, I must be like a player. But anyway, all the fuss about turning from single to double makes me feel uneasy, not only because the excessive curiosity to they who’ve asked but also I feel this burden to explain the answers for I realized the answers would not be short. Whenever I am encountered with such questions, I will just answer them with brief practical words which make most of them stop pressing me.

Today, I guess, would be the day to explain one or two thoughts why I am still unmarried. Maybe men who accidentally reading this post will be frowned a little. Bear with me, this might give you a few insights on women at their late twenties. The first question usually asked is usually about why they are still being a single. If you are asking me, my answer is because I am not ready for being committed to relationship at the moment. Following question may be a little bit harder to answer, “if I am not ready, then when?” Surely I will be ready once I meet a person who I am ready to be living with for my entire life. Marriage is, after all, a no joke.

Now we are finally at the center of discussion on how to meet that specific person when there are eventually so many singles out there. Why is it that impossible to meet only one of billion people? I personally think that marriage needs to be thought very carefully. Some people believe that married would be a finish line, even a life-time goal. It is a pity that most of us believe on those misconception about marriage. Marrying your significant other for the rest of your life is also a part of growing processes. It is going to be a big disaster if they who are dating could not grasp the essence of relationships. They may spend a lot of time together without digging and finding out what information they are actually looking for. Dating or marrying someone is not only a series of fun time and making memories. These days, dating are not the only way to get to know the potential partner. I believe there are a lot more efficient process through simply having straight forward-mature talks!

The first step to get married is to meet the potential partner. Before finding one, it is important to define who you are looking for. I realize a person can not have all the qualities, but once you are defining your qualities, just never ignore that you must know yourself first of all the things. It is rather impossible to think if the love story of you and your S.O would be like a fairy tale. Your circles sometimes also define who you are going to be with.

The hard and quite confusing step is when you need to choose the person. It is confusing for I am a man and I tend to expect many. I once think hard on the types of man I am ready to be living with. As the increased experiences, my criteria are naturally shrinking in to a very small number. It is very personal and its secrecy depends on who I am talking with. To me, keeping criteria is necessary. To those who have partner already, never ever think that those things can only be applied to singles. A marriage is sacred and I believe it is not a toy to play with. However I never think it is going to be easy as well.  I wish anyone of you who read this do not become someone who rush marrying just anyone for the time is keep tickling and you are getting older day by day.

the life-time decision

Another thing is the decision to be married itself.  One day I read about decision making process and realize feelings can in fact be useful, especially in highly uncertain circumstances where further data gathering and analysis won’t sway you one way or another.  That is also very much relate-able to point out an example on decision making process about marry or not to marry. When our social circle and friends are mostly married and having a baby already, we tend to have the urge to marry as well. We will tend to think that marriage is a good idea because everyone is having it. It is a completely natural response, but it is dangerous if the person don’t really evaluate about what he/she really wants as well.

Before deciding on whether to trust the gut feel, it is always important to ask ourselves what do we want and how we want it. Don’t let ourselves trapped in the ‘Neighbor’s grass is greener-syndrome’. It is okay to have different life choice. Once we’ve decided to rely on our intuition to make a high-impact decision, don’t try to explain it or justify to others how we arrived at it. If we apply logic and data to gut feel, the more likely we are to put off a decision or make a worse one.

So, those are all what I thought. Maybe you will find them useful, or to the extreme opposite, you find me boring for thinking too much. Anything is fine. Whatever decision you choose, I hope it is good for your own self first. Of course the opinion I am writing on this post may not be applicable to some. And most of the times, standard theories about relationships are just so different and very much surprising. Just make a mental note that anything could be happened even though logically amd mentally you are prepared.

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to grow old or to grow up

Dear readers,

Months ago, a friend of mine asked me if she wanted to introduce me to one of her single male friends. Actually I was a bit reluctant, but I tried to accept her good intentions by just agreeing to her polite requests. The person she was introducing was her classmate during her freshman which I, in the other hand, happened to be familiar with. Me and my friend actually took same Uni, even though different major. I am not sure if he has already know me though. Long story short, I was rejected. The reason is because he wants his soon-to-be-wife to be much younger than him. He does not tell this directly to me, but I know the reasons thanks to this friend of mine who seemingly very upset toward this guy’s reason.

Of all the many forms of discrimination, ageism seems less familiar even though in practice are many to be found. After all,  we are mostly familiar about discrimination toward different ethnicity, religion, race, etc. To be really really honest, I was shocked! It was shocking that the ageism I have experienced was felt precisely in terms of finding a partner, gaaaah! At first glance, anyone, just like my friend, could think he was so rude, but I can never be angry toward someone’s preferences. If someone get to be angry to me for I prefer K-Pop guys instead of Javanese guys, it surely should be me who get triggerd!! Anyway I think he was polite enough not to tell the truth (or not? anyone can correct my judgement?), he just showing me he was not interested anymore. Me, in the other hand, smart enough :p that I’ve caught the signs and quickly move on without getting a single hurt. Save. But no matter what excuses I have mentioned you might still not believe me and that still okay. This phenomenon clearly hits my nerve and thanks to that I get inspirations to write something.

As far as I experience, ageism are commonly found in workplaces such those considered too old are incapable to work faster or learn slower and those considered young must be inexperienced. These facts alone make me shudder and undeniably cause me uncomfortable since I am planning to stay productive even if I reach my 60s. Writing about this forces me to find the more phenomena of Ageism around me.

Now, what is ageism? I honestly do not really know where to start searching, but once during my school days, I remember that WHO has ever published stats about Healthy Aging. So I start to look first from WHO.

Ageism is the stereotyping, prejudice, and discrimination against people on the basis of their age. Ageism is widespread and an insidious practice which has harmful effects on the health of older adults. For older people, ageism is an everyday challenge. Overlooked for employment, restricted from social services and stereotyped in the media, ageism marginalizes and excludes older people in their communities.

– WHO

Unfortunately, WHO definition in term of ageism is not really representing the facts I am experiencing. The first time I experienced ageism is when I was the youngest student among my classmates. My friends usually call me with anak bawang- for I was the youngest so naturally not expected to help when we were playing baseball, or worse, they mostly did not want to include me on the team. We tend to naturalize that fact and forget if that is one form of ageism. The next two commom facts may be more admittable. I have worked in one of Indonesian’s old private companies where the elderly people never want to be lead by the younger. At glance, the requirements of some specific position mostly are restricted to someone age below 28 y.o, meaning they who are older are incapable to sign up for the job.

Not only in workplaces, ageism are also commonly found in education. In Indonesia, how many people are reluctant to pursue their education at an age considered ‘old’ by society? I do not have the data, but I saw how my mom used to say to my dad that he shouldn’t pursue his doctoral degree, instead think of their children’s education first lols When I skimmed scholarship requirements, I see that the maximum age someone could apply for the scholarship are about 30-35 y.o.

Ageism is a term firstly introduced by Robert Neil Butler to describe discrimination against seniors, and patterned on sexism and racism. Presumably from the beginning ageism was aimed at older people. However ageism recently also has been linked to anyone who’ve been treated unfair due to her/his age. Ageism experienced by younger people  is called reserve ageism.

Ageing population

No matter how old we are now, we must realize that aging population are growing. One proof of the success of development is the increase number of life expectancy, meaning there will be less number of premature death, which is naturally meaning there will be more elderly people living. It is said to be a premature death only if the death occurs before the average death in a certain population.

growing number of elderly

We are, in fact, currently facing the significant growing of elderly people, the fact is inversely proportional to the growth of young age which tends to be constant. It is perfectly okay to always talk about bonus demography, but never forget to think of the ageing population.

The percentage of the elderly population that has reached above seven percent shows that Indonesia has begun to enter the group of old structured countries wkwk seriously. The more developed one country, the more possibility of the people living there to stay productive. In Indonesia, the growing population means  the increase number of life dependency (In 2018, about 25%). We are now starting to familiar about sandwich generation. The culture may be changing, but no matter what the possibilities are, we should start cinsidering the possible supporting policies, facilities, or even access toward elderly people. Here I am talking about us as the prospective elderly, insya allah. Our government might start to replicate policies that have been appealed by WHO.

The best part, now we continue the data about the age of marriage. I just happen to know you must be waiting for this part most!

Since the idea of writing this topic comes from the experience before, I am now curious about the age of marriage in Indonesia. As a woman, am I too old to get married, or not?

If we are following the marriage trend in Indonesia, BPS said the trend of early-age marriage are increasing. By early-age means the age less than 17 years. The percentage were at 14,18% and 15,66% sequentially in 2017 and 2018. Now let me check from Susenas Data processed by Lembaga Demografi UI.  The data show trends of marriage age are increasing. In 2016 they are 23rd for women and 27th for men. However the data are still broad enough that they cannot yet be generalized since apparently there are vast differences between marriage trends in cities and villages.

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I am 27th turning 28th next year and living in city, so briefly I have already been above the average age of marriage. Next, let’s see the data now based on education level. This one is quite interesting 😉

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Based on the graph, the higher the education level, the higher the age of first marriage both applied for women and men. Interestingly the difference in age between women and men are not significant, meaning that my age is still in the normal age category of not married🤔. However, the declining trend of married age in highly educated women is also very interesting. Now I do wondering why that happens?

So, when is exactly the perfect age for marriage?

I cannot say surely. In general speaking, I can say it really depends on certain people even though according to this research, the perfect age of marriage should between the age of 28-32.

However I have my own opinion about this matter. By writing this I am not entirely against early-age marriage. In certain country, early-age marriage somehow is needed (Still, I wish both the groom and the bride were not too young and the education access were still open for them). In India, the last time I read early-age marriage are massively believed to prevent their daughters from being raped, correct me if I am wrong and the data were outdated!!! its night here and I am too tired to do the research, might update it later. However personally, I salute to those who brave enough to start a family in early age, anyhow, that choice followed by great responsibilities!

Early-age marriage which recently becomes hype is too simplistic considering the true meaning of marriage. Mentally, are they ready? Still remember the case of a celebrity who married at age of 18 with a Hafiz who is still 22, only yet lasts for 3 months? I am also against to those parents who neglect to look after their children. This might, again, sound boring, however, financial side must also be considered. I often hear the phrase that there is such a thing as rizky-sustenance after marriage. In my humble opinion, I will say there are always berkah-blessing for every good deed, not only about marriage. Just never simplify the fact that married life does not need financial support. The more prepared someone is, including his/her financial circumstances, the better he/she is.

Early-age marriage also ignores facts that women who have sex at an early age are more at risk for cervical cancer which also becomes the 2nd biggest caused of death for women in Indonesia. Moreover female’s reproductive organ under age of 20 are not ready to conceive and give birth which mostly leading to increased risks of maternal death. Lasts, marriage is about commitment. We need to ask ourselves if we are ready to be committed to live with someone maybe so different from us for ever! I do not want to criticize, but the divorce rate in Indonesia has increased.

In the past three years (2015-2017) the trend of divorce in Pengadilan Agama-Religious Courts throughout Indonesia has experienced an increase, data says, with reasons due to financial problems. The data explained that the divorce occurred at the age of marriage less than five years. Three cities with the highest divorce rates in Indonesia are Indramayu, Cimahi, and Cirebon.

On Self – Ageism

Lasts, ageism naturally causes us to start limiting ourselves once we reach a certain age which is commonly called self-ageism.

To be frankly speaking, my family worrying me still being unmarried is at the i-dont-give-a-damn level (I am so sorry, Dad, I know you are reading this but it is just the truth) I am writing this post eventually not for bragging or simply telling anyone that I am okay even though I am unmarried since I have full time job and prospective career. No.

Me and I believe, with the many women out there are constantly being asked to consider when it is about pursuing higher degree or jobs with prospective career path. Ageism at specifically women who are unmarried are quite common. I remember I have read somewhere that this tendency is not only happened in Indonesia, so not merely reason because we are living in Indonesia. If you ever know about Jane Austen’s works, we could see that the circumstances faced by women in her era pretty much same like in Indonesia.

Being able to be committed is good, although not everyone will experience an end which is considered pleasant by societies. Most of the time, people’s accusations are far more terrible than anything. At those specific time, just remember we must be confident and strong enough in our convictions. It is us who understand ourselves best after all. If not, start looking for the answers. They must be the process of us to grow.

Now enough talking about ageism in women. Besides, I believe men also experience pretty much same kinds of ageism about marriage even though maybe the pressure not as hard as the pressure exerted to women.

How could we live the life that age is only a number?

Just tried not to easily label someone based on their own age. In workplace, for instances, never assume young employee as someone who are inexperience. In the same time, as the young employee, never assume someone as old as our parents are slow in learning new things. There must be some specific cases, but that does not mean we can generalize them ^^, By associating ourselves more with older people we could learn their experiences, who knows that they might have interesting experiences when they were young. Hanging out with younger people will remind us how fun it is to be young, to be so eager to learn new things. To think our past experiences could be a help for certain people will ease our heart since sometimes the remorse of past that cannot be fixed can be healed by helping.

So back to my title on this blog posts, what it is to grow old and what it is to grow up, I will say that to me, growing old is a certainty and, in the same time, also a necessity. No matter how old we are, there are no barriers that prevent us from doing anything as long as we can and happy, moreover when they are good for our surrounding. I honestly have kept going back to this questioning childhood’s contemplation in order to learn a trick or two of unpredictable adulthood, to look for answers to riddles shaped of the life accumulated from the past until the unknown futures. Growing up is a choice which proofs of commitment to learn every single time without stopping. Our attitude toward lives are broaden. In my experiences, once we choose to grow up, we will be getting wiser. Growing up naturally helps to slow down the process of us growing old.

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on making peace with emotion

These past weeks, I have been sad. Maybe you already realized this-so-not cool emotion since I wrote about my grand father, however I could not even help but admit I was very shaken up. That is maybe the reason why I talked a lot. I talk a lot on my Twitter and Plurk and write a lot in this already dusty blog. Anyway, I do not intend to write about sadness to this point. By concluding what I was trying to do in these past weeks, I always find something to think and learn about leading to the realization of who I was and who I am.

1. I do not write for many times, both in this blog and in other places

I used to write, not only about the ramblings, but also about the many issues usually popped up during my every day living. I never limit myself to only certain issues, except I should say I am avoiding politics and religion-theme topics for they are unhealthy to my mental states. I read only the brief articles, or asked my friends who are so into those themes, then started figuring out which issues currently being mostly discussed.

This week I have three serious topics I am trying to write, yet still unfinished. The tendency to only research, yet a bit lazy when it comes about writing haunts me. Moreover, I have too many excuses not to write those topics for I have jobs and thesis as my current priorities. The two paradoxical thinking, both the genius of AND and the tyranny of OR, are two concepts of thinking which hold ourselves back from greater clarity in life.

It was firstly introduced by Jim Collins from the book he wrote titled Build to Last. This concept has already applied around various lines from psychology to business to science to philosophy and all the way back again. The tyranny of OR happened to those who is unwilling to embrace the paradox. To explain it simply, I will analogize this concept with the circumstances I am currently facing. I am a corporate employee, yet in the same time I am also a final-year student, meaning I have responsibilities I have to fulfill as both an employee and a student. The tyranny of OR is bringing the issues that for I have two responsibilities, it does not mean I must do my best to the two. It pushes me to believe that things must be either first fulfilling my responsibility as an employee or a student, not both. As long as I am not able to live with the two seemingly contradictory responsibilities in the same time, I  always believe that between the school and the work can not be simultaneously pursued. That being said, to solve my fear of cognitive dissonance is through the Genius of the AND. By that, my responsibility is then to find or create my own pace to satisfy both. That being said, I should not excuse not to write any blog posts since I have committed to be able to write regularly for my own sake.

2. I am lacking of inspiration

Since I started to update my blog posts regularly some weeks ago, I realize that I use same words for so many times. Even though I was quite diligent to write regularly for some days, these past days I felt very unmotivated, plus, I was also busy at my office since I will start my last term in less than two weeks.

Everyday I am haunted by reality that my thesis progress seems meaningless while in the same time I am pretty sure my school life will contribute to my daily level of busyness. The bad is that single fear is only one of the many I can not actually handle before finally I am ended up crying and feeling a bit useless. I was usually realized that me being scared only some hours after and naturally lessen my time to do some productive efforts. Anyhow, productive efforts are never enough. There is this wake up call that it has been quite long since the last time I do travelling. Meeting with great people and reading good books are way good to trigger such inspiration but there is something else by travelling.

A study I have ever read about travelling was published at Cornell University. We all are already knew that we are encouraged to spend money on experiences rather than material things. It is nice to have this already-known-knowledge confirmed. By the research, it was told that one of the enemy of happiness is adaptation, meaning if we purchase material things to make ourselves happy, then the happiness will never long lasts. Experiences, after all, a bigger part of ourselves than our own material goods.

Another reason is because shared experiences will connect us to more people. Feeling connected to a bigger part of societies never fail me. However being connected through experiences are much different through material things. Material things are easily comparable, between having the latest gadgets and the old ones, between the good hotels to stay and the budget ones, and etc. Experiences, however, are incomparable. People have their own way to believe, to think, to act, and to behave, thus the stories to each one would automatically different. The more experiences we have means the more stories and the more people to share with. Plus, it is hardly easier to judge people with different experience.

I am currently thinking to travel to India next year, or somewhere else, who knows. I am open to any possibilities.

3. I do not understand myself enough

Whenever I was hit by situation which makes me unable to think clearly, I always wonder if I could not understand myself enough. Emotion is mostly seen as a sign of weakness by the societies. There are many stories saying that they who could keep their emotion are deemed more as more mature than they who are not. Anyway, no one is immune to emotions, not me, not you, not even the prophets. The difference is maybe in how ones facing then embracing the overwhelmed emotions. Never embrace them meaning that we choose the slower, yet more painful method of torture.

So I talk a lot to myself, more than I talk to my family, my friends, and random strangers I met on and off line. However thanks to the constant emotional jump I am experiencing, I start writing again. Writing is a mean of assertive defense of self, mainly for those who experiencing social anxiety like me. By accepting, not avoiding the undesirable emotions, we will not end up losing on all the enlivening emotions. It helps me to consider if they are pushing me to helpful directions or vice versa. Beside, writing blog posts should be a medium to brain dance. I actually love that it is pretty exhilarating to be able to share my thoughts sequentially. 

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#1 Take-a-step Thursday: smile!

I was reading  articles on some book bloggers when happilly found a blog discussing  unique memes that can be used as refresher topics of my blog. I noted several events that I think would be very useful in both developing the idea of writing and motivating reading, just saying this as a bookish or a not bookish articles lol. This current post is actually one of so many events I am going to start to  participate :p This Take-a-step Thursday is an event hosted by thistles and whistles. Since I am joining international events, I need to post the article in English. Basically, the idea of this event is to encourage bloggers to write inspirational events that they experienced during the past week. I really like her idea since positive vibes naturally will be needed so spreading inspirational stories should be a kind way to share happiness with people. For me, emotions are so confusing sometimes so every single time I need to remind myself there are so many things that I can take for a lesson.

Yesterday I was desperately a bit sad for whatever reasons. At the time I thought I need to find a way how to release the negativity  sooner or I might not make today’s holiday as cheerful as it should be. Then I found a very good article titled “The science of smiling: A Guide to the world’s Most Powerful Gesture” Reading the articles luckily helps me to realize that smiling does really help me to forget all the sadness. I sometimes do forget how to smile in certain circumstances. Without me realizing it, I am not a kind who can easily smile lol  The article is also very useful since it guides us how to familiarize ourselves smiling. Smiling really helps to generate more positive vibes. It says that we often feel happier around children for they naturally smile a lot. Just to be compared, children smile 400 times a day. People who are happy smile 40-50 times a day while the averages only smile about 20 times. What makes me sadly more is the fact that people mostly forget how to smile genuinely since they are more used to show their social smiles.

So, why don’t you start your day with the brightest smiles you can give to people around? ^^

how do you keep your friendship?

True friends stab you in the front, Oscar Wilde

A good quote, isn’t it? No, I solemnly swear not to talk about Oscar Wilde nor the true friends who stab me. pfft… :p I only put the quote since I like how that moment is being quoted.

Recently I read a book by Ruth Ozeki. Oh, Ok. I did not how that book really affects my mind. I state her name for the upteenth time. hahaha… What I learned is about a character which is at first could not move on from her past life which is far more better than ever. She was deseperate and nearly killed herself. Her circumstances describe a nightmare when you have no friends around who really appreciate your existence.

I believe I have people called as friends. When the relationship between me and friends has become so close, we call them as mates.  I believe I have friends, yet very few of them are being my mates. Some are my classmates when I was studying at university and some other comes to me when I was in a place keeping me away from my reality. At least I call them as my mates, though I do not know how they place me in their heart.

I do not know how people keeping their friendship and how they are interacting with their friends from the past. I am a person who could not keep my past relationship. I really mean that.  There are only four friends from my senior high school who are still contacting me. They were happenly sitting close to my desk. However, I am always happy to attand classmates reunion to at least say hello, though mostly I can only be there for a moment. I add my old friends through facebook. Sometimes I just giving a ‘like’ to their photos on instagram so that I will make sure I still know them as friends of mine.

I feel really sad every time I need to part with my friends. At that time, I was surely know we could not be as close and important as before. Sometimes I am thinking who will be invited on my wedding day……. ok, that question is rather far from the topic, yet I did not know, of all friends I have ever known, who will still want to be a friend of me and come to my banquet? How they feel about me really becomes my concern. I just… do not know how to behave on old friends. I usually smile and ask their latest news with friendly attitudes which I think is far better than only having an eye contact while self arguing whether to call them or not. Some of them still recognize me, sometimes the other are not. lol

So, how do you keep your friendship? I try my best to still keep our relationship no matter what. The problem is when you only call them when you are in needs. To avoid that unnecessary moment,  after all, this has huge benefits.

how healthy you are

Todays I am getting more aware about days I passed with my family. I am trying not to bother my parents more and be blessed to what I have. I keep communication to my younger brother who is studying far from home. You know, people should be grateful for everything while they can do. I am getting older and so are my parents and my two younger brothers. Everything related to the health of my parents really can distract me from my life. Uhm,.. my life is with them though. Last week my mother did cervical cancer screening. When she said she wanted to take the screening test, it reminded me to my friend who was recently detected breast cancer. I also felt a little worried of the results. I was glad the result was negative and she is still in the best of health.

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Well, I actually do not mean to complain my hopeless life. However In September last year, one of my relative died from tumor in his liver. A friend of mine also died of blood cancer. I recalled my eating habit which is so unhealthy. I seldom eat junk foods, yet I am eating snacks such as chiki, chitos, other foods I am not sure what their ingradients are, and consuming baverage packaging. I drink coffee every day. I can not keep my eyes open while I also need to complete my works and university assignments in the same time. I know I have reduced drinking cola since… well rather long year ago since I knew there were no good effect on health. I am exposed to the toxic dust everyday and not regularly exercising. These habits were formed and also depended on with whom I am interacting with, besides my family. To say the truth, I also scare to chronic diseases such as cancer, diabetes, and heart attack. I know people around me who were suffered from these kinds of diseases.

Since I have been studying about health sciences, somehow I have been shadowed by the fears of diseases. Looks weird, huh? Though sometimes I am still longing to be a doctor, at least I am glad for taking public health instead of medical sciences. Somehow, I still could not apply healthy habits due to my very bad nature. I asked my mother to provide tomatoes and fruits after having discussion about her result. My family somehow could not afford to consume enough fruits (apples or oranges) everyday so I asked her to add tomatoes to the lists. I also reduced eating  Indomie and greasy foods including gorengen. I almost buy gorengan once in 3 days!!! I can make my lunch every day.

People living in big city tend to find difficult to have sports regularly.  Uhuk,.. this may  be only in here. My friends, my family, my neighbor, almost never do sport routinely. The ultimate reason for not doing sports is due to the time. I am used to using stairs instead of elevator since I work in fifth floor. I jog around my home in about 30 minutes once a week. Eventhough I try to manage my eating habit and do sport, it does not mean I can be free from the diseases. As we believe, people should control their unhealthy habit. As the WHO said, we are now facing double burden diseases which includes the increasing of the prevalence of chronic disease and the persistent health problems of infectious diseases. However, the modern life within leads us to the more complicated diseases. Stress and mental health, for instance, have been a global health issues. The prevalence number is increasing year by year. I know, health is a complex issues faced not only by the developed countries, but also the developing ones. I think the important thing is trying to live healthy lifes is a must for everyone.

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